I’m a huge fan of etymology. Etymology is the study of words. So often, we use words and we have no idea what they REALLY mean. Let me give you an example:
Webster defines “entertain” as “to show hospitality to or to provide entertainment for.” So. Having heard that, you would think that anything here to entertain you was just something to make you feel good, keep you amused or to take you out of your regular routine for a positive purpose, right? Nah. Here’s the breakdown of what entertain REALLY means. It means “to keep up, maintain, to keep (someone) in a certain frame of mind,” Anything that entertains you was actually created to keep you in a certain frame of mind. This is why we have to be so selective about who and what we allow ourselves to be entertained by. That one is for free. I’ll talk about it more next year, though.
Anyway, let’s talk about emotions. Etymology lets us know that an emotion is “a social moving, stirring, agitation”. What does this mean? It means that any time an emotion comes, it comes as a movement and it comes to move, stir or agitate you. This is why people say that they were hit with a “wave” or a “flood” of emotion. Here’s the tea tho: Emotions come as moving, stirring and agitating because they are supposed to keep moving. We stop them and wallow in them, which prevents them from achieving their intended purpose. Think about it. If you’re standing on the shore trying to take pictures, and you move with every wave that comes, you will NEVER get anything done. The same is true with emotions.
When you feel a happy emotion, you are supposed to fully embrace and enjoy those moments of happiness. However, if you lock yourself into that one moment of happiness, how will you ever see what the rest of your life has to offer? There could be a million more happy moments coming your way, but you can’t get to them if you allow yourself to be stagnant in or moved off course by that one moment of happiness. The same is true about anger. If you let your anger move you, you could end up doing something you would regret for the rest of your life. On the flip side, you could feel your anger, be present in that moment, learn what you need to learn, plan what you need to plan, and allow that anger to pass so that you may enjoy the next moment life has to offer.
See how that works? I’m not telling you not to feel your emotions. As a matter of fact, what I’m actually telling you is to feel your emotions completely and wholeheartedly. But after you feel them, let them pass. Keep them in motion.
I found myself going through so many emotional ups and downs and highs and lows all the time. Why? Because I allowed emotions to move me. It got so bad that I actually created a journal that I still use to this day. In the journal, I literally plan what I’m going to do when I feel sad and/or angry. That way, if I find myself in one of those moments, I know exactly what I need to do. This journal has been a lifesaver for me. If you would like one, just check out the episode notes on my website and you’ll see the link there (or if you’re on my website, the link is below).
Whether you get a journal or not, the most important thing to me is that you keep your emotions in motion. Always. The good ones, the not so good ones – ALL of them. It’s so much better for your health.
Have an amazing day today. Show love to yourself AND others. Be GREAT! I speak life to you and everyone and everything connected to you! Catch me tomorrow!